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Meet Lacey and Olivia
"I have learned to have confidence in myself... and best of all I have re-established an amazing relationship with my daughter."
Lacey was court-ordered into an addiction treatment center and participated in the Parent Trust Families in Recovery, Parent Support Group Program.
Lacey's story, ...in her own words.
"Growing up I didn’t know how to be happy and secure, I didn’t have much of a model to go off of. I learned early that alcohol and pills were an acceptable way to find the happiness I wanted so much. By the time I was 22, I had 3 alcohol related driving infractions, I had been to treatment twice, I had overdosed on heroin and other drugs and I found myself pregnant with a child I was not ready for. My life was at a crossroad and the child I was not ready for became the only thing I lived for. I dropped the partying, the drugs, the lifestyle… I got serious about school and obtained my Associates degree while pregnant. My sweet Olivia was born on November 27, 2007. By the time Olivia was 2, I had graduated with my Bachelor’s degree from UW.
Although I had put aside the crazy lifestyle, I still enjoyed alcohol. I assumed that there was a difference between the partying I had once experienced to having wine at home after work. I didn’t realize the strength of addiction. My glass of wine here and there quickly became a physical need for alcohol 24/7. It took only a year for me to lose all control of my life and my body with alcohol. I was watching my world fall apart and worse, watching myself lose the only important thing in my life, Olivia. I self-destructed and on June 29, 2012 I was arrested for a 4th time for DUI. My baby girl was in the backseat. I found myself in jail for 82 days followed by 6 months of inpatient treatment. I didn’t know how I ended up there, but I knew I belonged. I needed that to save my life.
While in treatment I was involved in a parent support group through Parent Trust. It was different than what I expected. It was a group that was about healthy parenting and support from my peers. We discussed everything from our daily routines to our inner emotional conflicts about our parenting. I dealt with a lot of guilt and shame. I felt that I had let down myself - and worse- I let Olivia down, as a mother and a person. I often thought that there was no way to fix the wreckage I had created in our lives. The women I had surrounding me and the intimate Parent Trust group helped me realize that I had not, in fact, ruined our lives beyond repair. I had an awakening of sorts in which I knew that although I had made a big mistake, I could use this as a learning experience. A sad little girl still lived inside me. I realized I had to find the true happiness in myself if I were to ever be able to be a good mom and person.
Through my experiences in treatment and in Parent Trust, I was able to learn the importance of modeling a healthy way of life that goes beyond just cutting out alcohol. I was able to learn the importance of having a healthy support system in my peers and my family. I learned how to stand up for myself and realize that although I have made mistakes in my life, but as a parent, those mistakes do not define me as a person. I am much more than that. I am a good person and a great mom. I have learned to have confidence in myself.
Since graduating treatment and Parent Trust, I have found the drive to apply for my Master’s degree in Social work, I have become gainfully employed at a job I love, I have my own condo, and best of all I have re-established an amazing relationship with my daughter. We have always been close and she has always been a happy child, but I can proudly say that I am as happy as she is now and our lives are so much better thanks to the help from Parent Trust and all of the services I received, and to the fact that I have been sober since June 30th, 2012. I can honestly say that I could not have done it on my own and I am so grateful for the help I received and knowing that it is OK to ask for help when I need it."
Being a parent is tough! Once problems arise it can be difficult to ask for help. Often individuals are aware they need guidance but aren’t sure where to start or how to ask for help. Parent Trust helps keep families safe. Due to the generosity of many supporters, Parent Trust for Washington Children reached 15,000 thousand children and families with our health, safety, and early learning programs.
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