An enlightened father recently noted, “The more responsibility I give my son – without being overly protective – the nicer he is.” This parent has discovered that back talk ceases when we allow our teens enough opportunity to suffer and learn from their own mistakes. Generally, Adolescents who talk back have parents who get angry Read More
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Trying On New Hats
Why Teens RebelSome teenagers seem to change their values weekly and even daily. If they believe what their parents believe, it means they are not individuals! Some teens have radar that picks up which values are most important to us and then they abandon those values. Wise parents recognize that it’s normal for adolescents to Read More
Giving Control Without Giving It Away
We often hear how wise it is to give our children a certain about of freedom and control over their lives. However, children who have more control than they know how to handle often act out in unbelievable ways to show us that they need limits. It’s almost as if they are saying, “How bad Read More
Things Teens Don’t Like To Hear
Consciously, and generally unconsciously, all of us like to hear, “I love you.” That’s probably the most important message in life. However, when raising children, the “I love you” message may be coupled with other messages that children may not, at first, appreciate. The messages teens don’t like to hear include variations of, “It looks like you Read More
High School Underachievement
Most parents want their teens to make it to the head of the class. Unfortunately, some teens lack the motivation to achieve good grades or even stay in school. The reasons for underachievement can include low self-esteem, boredom, family issues, rebellion and drug abuse. And, it is a rare teen who does not tire of Read More
Smart Mouth Can Be Cured
“What’s wrong with that kid?! No respect! Every time I turn around she’s talking back.” This complaint from a parent reminded me that concerns about kids who “talk back” come up often. Sassing is a frustrating problem. Solving this problem usually means a change of behavior for both child and adult. As an adult, I Read More